“People do stare at us because we obviously we look a bit different from some other families.”
Alyssa and her family are used to being constantly stared at by strangers in the street – it’s a part of their everyday life.
In fact, it can happen as often as up to a handful of times in just one day.
“When we go out together, I can see that some people do stare at us as obviously we look a bit different from some other families,” the Melbourne mum said.
“I get asked everyday if the girls are related. Obviously as Sienna has dwarfism, and Bonnie does not, you can tell that people have questions.
The 29-year-old and her fiancé Jonathon 40, were both born with a slightly different type of dwarfism, which has been passed down to their eldest daughter Sienna, who is three.
“It was very exciting when I got pregnant, we were so happy. Jonathon is a very fun father and absolutely loves every minute of it,” Alyssa said.
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“People often think they’re twins because of their size.” Source: Caters News
“People often think they’re twins”
The couple they were over the moon after welcoming their youngest daughter Bonnie, now 22 months, in July, 2018 – completing the family they had always dreamed of.
“We couldn’t be happier with our beautiful family. I have always dreamed of having kids and Jonathon was definitely born to be a dad,” Alyssa said.
But the fascination with her family is endless.
“People often think they’re twins because of their size and because they both have blonde hair- but in reality, Sienna is two years older than Bonnie,”
“It can be up to five times a day that people will ask about them. If they don’t think they’re twins, they’ll often assume Bonnie is a friend or cousin.”
However, instead of getting stressed and offended about the looks and comments, the stay-at-home mum has an admirable attitude.
“It doesn’t bother me at all though when people ask questions, I find it quite funny. I’m all for those conversations and having the opportunity to raise awareness.”
“Jonathon is a very fun father and absolutely loves every minute of it.” Source: Caters News
“Jonathon and I were on totally different paths…”
Alyssa, who was born in South Africa and immigrated to Australia when she was 13, met Jonathon back in 2009 at a convention for short-statured people.
They remained just mates for many years before blossoming into a relationship – and Alyssa was overjoyed when he popped the question in January this year.
“Jonathon and I were on totally different paths at that point in our lives when we met and we were friends for a very long time before becoming a couple,” she said.
Alyssa, who is 1.3 metres, explained that while she and Sienna have a type of dwarfism known as achondroplasia, Jonathon, who is 1.4 metres, was born with another type called hypochondroplasia.
While very similar, Alyssa added that the only difference between the two types is that people with hypochondroplasia are usually slightly more proportionate.
“Both of us had pretty good experiences growing up. I have a very thick skin, so nothing really bothered me that much, even if some kids would say mean things. “
“I can’t wait to see my girls grow up together. They’re already so close and I think they’ll be best friends for life.” Source: Caters News
“I only had one friend as a child who was short-statured”
She said she never really saw other people like herself when she was growing up.
“I only had one friend as a child who was short-statured, who I saw a few times a year, but that was about it. It wasn’t until I was 18 that I was really exposed to other people with the same condition.”
But she admits that the easy access to the online world has changed all of that.
“It’s so different now with the internet, kids can connect with other kids who are like them and feel less alone.”
Alyssa is sharing her story to help raise awareness of dwarfism while also proving that the condition does not define her or her family in any way whatsoever.
“The main thing I want to get across is that we are really no different to anyone else. There are short-statured people who are doctors, lawyers and are in all sorts of different professions”
“We couldn’t be happier with our beautiful family.” Source: Caters News
“The most important thing is that a child is taken care of and loved”
She also hopes to inspire other young people with dwarfism that might feel uncertain about their future.
“I think there are quite a lot of misconceptions out there. I haven’t experienced anything too negative personally in regards to me and Jonathon having children,” Alyssa said.
“But I have seen it happen to other parents with dwarfism, who have receive comments basically saying that short-statured people should not have children. It’s really awful.
“The most important thing is that a child is taken care of and loved – that is all that matters.
“I can’t wait to see my girls grow up together. They’re already so close and I think they’ll be best friends for life.”